Dear Don Lupe,
I didn't know you that well or long but I did know that you helped and touched a lot of people. All of which are saddened by your departure along with hundreds more. I am amongst the hundreds. You've been gone a week and the funeral is today. I wish I could do more but I can't. I'm not even half the man you were. I've heard so many stories about you that I felt as if I knew you. I didn't have to know or see you to know and see the impact you had on others lives. Especially mine. See, I didn't have my father in my life and he passed away a few years ago. I never really knew what one was or what he was expected to do. To be honest the same thing could be said of my twisted definition of manhood.
You were a man. Correction, you were THE man. The very definition of what a man is supposed to be. You were strong, stubborn, understanding, outgoing but always loving and would listen. You worked hard, provided for your family and helped all you could with what you had.
I remember meeting you on Liz's birthday and thinking 'Oh boy..' I remember it like it was yesterday. Your hat, all the family there and you just sitting and watching cracking the occasional smile or joke but mostly just enjoying all the family together. Bill dropped, you paid, no biggie. You made me feel like I was family. I will never forget that.
You were a fighter. fought this cancer, fought the odds, fought off doctors "expert" opinions and did what you wanted up until the end. But all that fighting leaves one tired and I can only imagine how you felt. My moms had cancer and chrones and I know about the kidney and liver failing as hers is too. I heard of how you checked yourself out of the hospital and me thinking 'What type of man is this?! who does that and gets to work right after as if nothing has happened?' You do, thats who.
I remember seeing you in that hospital and you joked with me about coming to one of my shows and me telling you my jokes. You looked like a man who had finally found peace right before your dialysis procedure. You had your hands clasped behind your head, feet elevated and you said 'I'm ready. I'll be ok. it'll all be ok'
The appeal that you had was almost mythical. EVERYBODY revered, respected and loved you. Period. regardless of what the relationship was your passing is doing what you wanted all along I think bringing everyone together to relax, remember the good times and put all now petty gripes to the side. even if it is just for today. You made EVERYONE feel like it would be ok. no matter how busy the world got or how stressed we got you listened and came up with a plan. You made everyone feel like they all had little secrets/inside jokes with every individual. it was amazing to watch you and I still am amazed.
We lay you to rest today. I write this as mass draws closer knowing I should be on the road but I had to get it out. I'll feel out of place and like everybody else will be an emotional wreck. You were THE man in my eyes. you were MY father as well as a thousand others that you made feel like you were theirs as well.
R.I.P. Don Lupe
I'll see you on the other side.
1 love.
Quincy
I didn't know you that well or long but I did know that you helped and touched a lot of people. All of which are saddened by your departure along with hundreds more. I am amongst the hundreds. You've been gone a week and the funeral is today. I wish I could do more but I can't. I'm not even half the man you were. I've heard so many stories about you that I felt as if I knew you. I didn't have to know or see you to know and see the impact you had on others lives. Especially mine. See, I didn't have my father in my life and he passed away a few years ago. I never really knew what one was or what he was expected to do. To be honest the same thing could be said of my twisted definition of manhood.
You were a man. Correction, you were THE man. The very definition of what a man is supposed to be. You were strong, stubborn, understanding, outgoing but always loving and would listen. You worked hard, provided for your family and helped all you could with what you had.
I remember meeting you on Liz's birthday and thinking 'Oh boy..' I remember it like it was yesterday. Your hat, all the family there and you just sitting and watching cracking the occasional smile or joke but mostly just enjoying all the family together. Bill dropped, you paid, no biggie. You made me feel like I was family. I will never forget that.
You were a fighter. fought this cancer, fought the odds, fought off doctors "expert" opinions and did what you wanted up until the end. But all that fighting leaves one tired and I can only imagine how you felt. My moms had cancer and chrones and I know about the kidney and liver failing as hers is too. I heard of how you checked yourself out of the hospital and me thinking 'What type of man is this?! who does that and gets to work right after as if nothing has happened?' You do, thats who.
I remember seeing you in that hospital and you joked with me about coming to one of my shows and me telling you my jokes. You looked like a man who had finally found peace right before your dialysis procedure. You had your hands clasped behind your head, feet elevated and you said 'I'm ready. I'll be ok. it'll all be ok'
The appeal that you had was almost mythical. EVERYBODY revered, respected and loved you. Period. regardless of what the relationship was your passing is doing what you wanted all along I think bringing everyone together to relax, remember the good times and put all now petty gripes to the side. even if it is just for today. You made EVERYONE feel like it would be ok. no matter how busy the world got or how stressed we got you listened and came up with a plan. You made everyone feel like they all had little secrets/inside jokes with every individual. it was amazing to watch you and I still am amazed.
We lay you to rest today. I write this as mass draws closer knowing I should be on the road but I had to get it out. I'll feel out of place and like everybody else will be an emotional wreck. You were THE man in my eyes. you were MY father as well as a thousand others that you made feel like you were theirs as well.
R.I.P. Don Lupe
I'll see you on the other side.
1 love.
Quincy









